Blackmail, Slut Shaming & a Porn Debut

This is an experience I had some months ago that I would love to share here. I was tricked into giving information to someone I thought I knew that allowed them to access my fb account. Honestly I was in a really good mood and had a glass of wine and was feeling generous so I didn’t think twice about it until it was too late. They pretended like they were locked out of their account and needed a phone number code to get back in. They called me on Skype to talk me through the process to “unlink our accounts” and suddenly all of these nude photos of me started scrolling down the screen and the hacker said to me “you have 30 seconds to strip down to your underwear and do whatever I tell you or ALL of these photos will be sent to your 5000 contacts.” It was like a movie.

Honestly I just started laughing. One because I felt so silly for letting myself be tricked and two.. that he chose the wrong person to blackmail with nude photos because I couldnt give a fuck about folks seeing me naked. When I told him that I didn’t care and that he could go ahead and post them he became extremely angry.

He continued to tell me they would go viral and humiliate me and destroy my life. I asked how would this destroy my life? I don’t respond to manipulation regardless of the threat. You cannot shame me. You cannot scare me. You cannot bully or intimidate me. You have no power over me. So do whatever you want to do…. he continued to seem shocked and infuriated that there was nothing he could do to control me. Then I tried to get him to open up to me.. that he was obviously angry or in pain and that I could help him. I wanted to understand what his motivations were. He refused to tell me anything and said that I would never get my account back and lose all of my contacts… trying another angle. Admittedly I was super bummed at the idea of losing all my contacts and memories documented here but I tried to play if off like I didn’t really care about that either and I would just make a new account. He called me several more times and wrote me saying “last chance… I’m going to post the photos now!” And I just said wtf are you waiting for?! Go ahead! Which seemed to take the fun out of it for him and he never posted them. He then locked up the system so that I couldn’t change my password and access my account. I made a new one to try to let y’all know what was going on and he was telling everyone I was the hacker lol. So after a few days of getting in touch with fb I finally recovered it this morning and I feel so relieved!

This was a powerful example for me on how we can allow ourselves to be manipulated by fear and shame – or not. That when we have conquered these – no one has the ability to control us. When we are in our power, no one can touch us. I was joking that after all of the threatening and build up for hours.. I was almost disappointed that he didn’t post them! I was so emotionally prepared hshaha. Just kidding of course – I ended up with a best case scenario. I got my account back AND somehow avoided making an internet porn debut 😉 For me this was a confirmation of how far I’ve come and how shameless and liberated I feel in every part of my life. Always grateful for these little opportunities and I’m laughing my way through the challenges.

So beware of these sad people looking to prey on your shame and show them the power of self respect instead xx

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